Self Care


As you are reading this post, I have just turned 30 somewhere under the blue sky. To be very honest, I have been thinking about this day since my early 20s. Turning 30 is like turning my mom’s age when she had two school-going kids! Most of the 90s girls can relate to this weird feeling where turning 30 has always seemed to feel like a distant dream and at the same time, it has been too tempting to step into this new milestone in life. Anyway, to sum up, I would say that I am a little nervous yet very excited to enter this new phase in my life. After all, you age like a fine wine and also someone told me 30 is the new 20!

Like every other person in this world, these thirty years of my life has taught me so many things- good, bad, ugly that gradually and eventually helped me grow as a human being and made me who I am today. These events have taught me not to regret anything in life rather make your failures your opportunities to start afresh in life. Today, in this post, I will tell you 30 things I have learned before I turned 30. This post might get a little lengthy but I promise I won’t make it boring!

To me, ageing is like an upgradation. With every year, you upgrade your inner and outer self, your mental state and your life’s vision by adding or eliminating things, vibes and people depending how much value these things are adding to your life. 30 is the age when you are almost aware of the fact that it’s more practical to stop clinging onto things or persons that no longer serve you and there is nothing wrong in that. The only way we age, at least for me, is all in our mind. For instance, mentally, I feel I am still in my early twenties or maybe late teens. That’s why I never dreaded turning 30 though it surely feels crazy to realise how time flew and landed me here.

Anyway, let’s start the part you are here for! Thirty years is enough to learn almost 90% of our life lessons. Some might have been hard for you and some might have been delightful but overall they all have helped you to grow into this beautiful person that you are now. Here, I am sharing mine-

30 Things I Learnt Before I Turned 30

30 Things I Learnt Before I Turned 30

  1. Love other people but not at the cost of your self-esteem.
  2. Never take any moment of your life for granted.
  3. Live in the moment.
  4. Everything happens when it’s destined to happen. Never force anything.
  5. Family comes first.
  6. Get out of a toxic relationship be it your family member.
  7. Sometimes it is better to silently distance yourself from people rather than get yourself into a conflict.
  8. Count your blessing.
  9. There is nothing like being humble and kind.
  10. People can be qualified yet uneducated.
  11. Find joy in little things.
  12. There is nothing called a right time to start living.
  13. There is no replacement for hard work.
  14. It’s okay to reset and start afresh.
  15. Taking breaks are necessary.
  16. Only invest in something that brings you peace.
  17. Mental peace is the most important.
  18. Never let anyone take your emotions for granted.
  19. It’s okay not to be in everyone’s good books.
  20. Journaling helps overthinkers a lot.
  21. Sunsets are my most favourite thing to watch every day.
  22. The moon/moonlight makes me happy.
  23. Negativity attracts negativity. So, it’s better to distance yourself from negative people and negative thoughts.
  24. When you stop procrastinating, great things happen.
  25. Patience is the key.
  26. Not everyone is qualified to be called a friend.
  27. Pretence irritates me to the core.
  28. Don’t judge a book by its cover.
  29. Life becomes more beautiful when you embrace it without asking anything in return.
  30. NEVER GIVE UP. Good things happen when you least expect it.

Even though turning 30 is still so far from reality to me, I am going to cherish every moment of this new phase in my life, make memories, be hopeful and grateful and lastly, I will always stay young at heart. Looking forward to the journey ahead ❤️️

Productiveness is not something that can be acquired by following a set of rules. Productiveness is a state of mind that can only be achieved if you genuinely feel productive. In this post, I will share with you how to be more productive every day. These points are something I personally follow or you can say I feel productive when I follow these.

Be a Morning Person

I know, I know! It’s easier said than done. But trust me, you can. I’ll tell you a trick that is 100% effective. Put an alarm next to you and once the alarm rings just get out of the bed and get yourself moving. No social media checks, no pondering, no dozing off again! It has to work. Also, make a list of tasks that you need to do for the day the night before. I am sure the pressure to complete the task won’t let you snooze your alarm clock.

I have always loved waking up early in the morning. The tranquillity and the freshness of the air have always played a major role in bringing out my inner productive person. Also, one of the boons of waking up early is you get plenty of time to finish all your chores. Maybe, you’ll get more time to enjoy your tea or your coffee or to upload more Insta stories!

Start the Day off with Relaxing Music

Last year, when I started facing some anxiety issues (I’ll tell you about it in a separate post), I started using some meditation apps which, to some extent, helped. Soon, I felt like I was not in a state of mind to completely concentrate on some for 15-20 minutes. All these meditation sessions had some amazing relaxing music in the background that made me think that maybe I can listen to this type of music while doing my daily morning routine and it worked! It de-stressed me, made me calmer and soon my restlessness was gone.

“Music is the Medicine of the Mind” – John A. Logan

Before starting a productive day you must enliven your senses. That’s what relaxing music does to you! You can find plenty of them on YouTube.

Plan Your Day Ahead

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Let me share a fun fact about me with you. I cannot function without writing everything down in my notebook. I cannot take mental notes. Kudos to you if you can. I like to plan my day ahead, typically the night before, because A. it saves time, B. you already have a plan to follow.

Recently I have found a great app that is the most efficient online planner. The best part about this is that it takes very little space (2.5MB). Earlier, I used to use a physical planner but I found it hard to maintain. Then I went on to plan on Google Calendar, but then again it was not convenient enough for me. Finally, I found Dreamie Planner. This is available on the Android Playstore and it’s completely free. (#notsponspored)

Make a Routine

This helped me a lot in time management and getting better at it every day. A daily routine can help you be more productive every day. Making a routine and getting accustomed to it helps a lot in achieving daily goals and in dividing the time evenly. Allot time-frames for each task to some extent that it doesn’t get in the way of your flow or ease of work. Also, keep a recreation gap for you in the routine. Getting a break is also as important as working. In short, make a routine that is more practical and doable than an overtiring one.

Find a Cozy & Peaceful Corner

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Your workspace plays a very important role in setting your mood for a productive and creative time of work. It acts as a mood board that inspires you and helps you stay focused. The main issue I used to have when I started taking my work seriously is to lose focus and get disorganised at times. A peaceful corner really adds up to the overall mood. Even if you are a student, try studying in a peaceful spot. That helps a lot.
I like to decorate my little workspace/desk with things that inspire my work and my goals. Do whatever suits your needs- add cute or quirky objects, fancy stationery, things that will invite you every day to that space.

Create a Vision Board

Mood boards or vision boards are really helpful if you have issues in focusing on certain things. A vision board is a collage of pictures, quotes or random things that you take inspiration from. A vision board gives you an atmosphere that helps you create and produce content. It’s like the dots that you join with your imagination to acquire valuable content.

Here’s an example of a mood board/vision board-

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Set Small Goals for the Day

I don’t know about you but I am the happiest when I am productive. I know being surrounded by work can be really tiring and hectic but hey! isn’t it the purpose of our lives? To be working and make every moment count? At least for me, it is. I have always wanted to be the independent woman that I am slowly becoming. I have always wanted to be my own boss, which I am today. In short, I am living the life I have always wanted to live and in the way I wanted it to be. But you know the drill, no pain no gain! Nothing comes easy in life, everyone has to sacrifice something or the other in the process of becoming themselves. For me, it was my sleep, my laziness, and my sensitiveness. But then, I am in the process of overcoming all these obstacles.

I know how hard it is to cope up with the hell lot of work that bloggers and influencers are supposed to do. It’s very easy to get detached and lose motivation at times. I hope incorporating these little things in your daily routine would make a change. With this, I wrap up #Episode2 of Pep Talk. If you want me to cover any other topic then let me know in the comments. See you soon!

How do you keep yourself productive?

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Sometimes, life puts us to the test to see if we are capable enough to help ourselves or not. Sometimes, we have to go through a phase that seems more difficult than you could ever imagine it to be, but at the same time, it is rewarding and something that strengthens your belief that ‘I can do it!’. Today, I am going to talk about something that I always heard people facing but never expected myself to face it. Yes, today I am talking about anxiety (as if the title wasn’t enough!) and how I dealt with it.

Those who haven’t faced anxiety might think it isn’t even an issue, it might seem to them as an ephemeral thing. When anxiety struck me, it took me a couple of months to understand what it actually is and why am I not feeling myself. I never discussed it with many but a few of whom I shared it with thought I was overthinking. See, that’s why is it necessary to spread awareness about mental health!

Anxiety isn't momentary, it isn't mood swing or overthinking. It's lengthy and the period varies from person to person. Click To Tweet

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Today, I’ll tell you my story. I am not a therapist or counselor, I am a sufferer myself who have just partially overcome it. I hope I can help some of you and/or you can help someone who needs help. Exactly a year ago when I thought I am at my creative best, anxiety struck me. The first thing to get affected by it was my blog, my writing, and my creativity. At first, I thought it’s another creative block but soon I was proved wrong. This creative block lasted 10 months and it wasn’t a creative block alone. Even the thought of opening my blog and of writing scared me, made me nervous. Needless to say, I was not at all okay with it. Imagine you love doing something and all of a sudden it becomes a burden for you. You cannot be cool with it, can you? The only thing that kept me going is my boyfriend’s support (at this point, only he was aware of my situation). He made me try and I tried. I forced myself to write a few pending reviews and occasionally one or two Instagram posts and that’s it.

In between all these, I took a couple of days off and went for a vacation thinking it will make everything normal again. Although I enjoyed quite a bit but, when I returned home everything was the same. I used to cry sitting in front of the computer. I lost all my inspiration. The girl who was always occupied in her blog suddenly wanted to run away from everything. This went to the extent where I almost deleted my blog but thank god I didn’t.

In the middle of all these, I finally started my YouTube Channel. It was long due and I thought to start my own channel (Which had been my dream) at this point in time might help me feel myself again. Talking about this, let me tell you doing new things makes me the happiest! The intro video went really well, people really appreciated me a lot and I was encouraged by so many people. Then I shot my second video and it came out to be terrible! Clearly, it did not make an appearance to the Tube. I cried the entire day. I was already broken and this broke me even more. I would like to thank four people from the bottom of my heart and they are my boyfriend Amit, my sister Sohini, Kinkinee (a fellow blogger, my best friend and soul sister) and Kirti (a fellow blogger and an amazing friend). These people help me stand up when I was determined to leave YouTube forever. I cannot express how grateful I am to them. I would have never summoned up the courage to give it a go once again. Now, I love my YouTube channel as much as I love my blog. I cannot imagine my life without them!

Why am I not Blogging Much | My Anxiety Story | Cherry On Top

Slowly, very slowly, I started feeling better. It wasn’t an overnight thing. Each day felt like a year to me. I never thought I could make it but, I did. I can’t say I’m 100% cured but I have recovered a lot and am still in the process of recovering fully. I’m going to share some of the things that made this happen.

  • Talk to someone about it even if you don’t want to.
  • Be with people. Loneliness is your biggest enemy. Spend time with the people you love and who love you back.
  • Eliminate people who are spreading negativity around you.
  • Take a break from work and engage in the activities you haven’t done in a while.
  • Travel.
  • Go out more often. Being in the same place will make you more conscious of the situation that you actually need to avoid.
  • Read real-life stories of people who have suffered anxiety issues.

These are the primary steps you need to try but, if the problem persists, seek a therapist without wasting time. It’s important.

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As I said, I have recovered 99%. I am only scared of getting back to that same spot. For me, it wasn’t as bad as some stories I had heard. I did not need any medical or therapeutical help. I am loving m job again. I have started planning contents for the next couple of months and I am feeling so proud of myself. One thing I must tell you all. I did not write this post to gain any kind of sympathy from anyone. Sharing this with you feels really good and comforting. It somehow releases all my stress. Plus, you guys have become a very important part of my life- my virtual family. The sole reason to write my experience down is to help anyone who is in need of that. I hope this post serves the purpose.

With this post, I am starting a new series on my blog called Pep Talk. Let me know how you like the idea and which topics you want me to cover next. There are many new things coming soon on this blog. I am sure you’re going to like it.

Do share your thoughts with me.

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